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Thai woman is pregnant, says I'm the father but won't let me prove it. Can I make her take a paternity test?
I met a woman on tinder end of October 2023. I'm 39/m and she 45/f. We went out and dated several times… Hey everyone, I have a burning question that I can't stop thinking about for about a week now.
I met a woman on tinder end of October 2023. I'm 39/m and she 45/f. We went out and dated several times for the two months that I had been there. I would spend a few days with her in Hua Hin, then travel around for a bit and then come back and visit her. Of course it wasn't made to last and when I left the country I assumed it was over. But most importantly, over time she displayed behaviour that made me not very fond of her.
Early January she messages me and tells me she's pregnant. I didn't believe her. She said she was and that she was 100% sure that I was the father. Again, I told her that I didn't believe her and that if she wanted me to believe her that she would have to get a test done. She would have to have a document with her name on it and the date saying that she was pregnant. Six months went by and I heard nothing. I messaged her almost two weeks ago asking what the deal was. She was angry with me and told me to f!@# off and then sent me pictures of her stomach. She is indeed pregnant. She still insists that the child is mine and that she's sure of that.
I now believe that she is pregnant but am still hesitant that I am the father. That being said I do believe that if it is my child, it is my right and responsibility to find out. I've told her that I was willing to take a paternity test and that I would like to see photos of the child when born to see what she (apparently a girl) looks like. She's being very defiant and twisting everything I say to make me feel like a bad person without giving me an actual answer. Basically saying that she won't send me photos of the child and even if she let me take a paternity test that I would never be allowed in the childs life anyways so there's not point in it.
I can't stand the idea of a child being in this world that "might" be mine. I feel that I may bother me for years to come and perhaps even a negative impact in the future if I don't investigate. This woman is also extremely shallow and selfish and I fear that she may be an abusive parent. The problem is that I don't even know what this woman's last name is. I know where her residence is in Hua Hin but that's about it.
Is there any way that I can have a paternity test forced? What could I do or should I do in this situation. All advice welcome. Thank you.
ngl dude the fact that she wont even give u her last name is kinda the biggest red flag here. without that u cant really do anything through official channels in thailand, the courts need a full name and thai id to even start paperwork.
if she was serious about child support she would have filed a claim at the local district office by now, that's how it usually works here. the fact that she just sends angry messages and belly pics tells me she's prob more interested in getting a reaction out of you than actually pursuing legal stuff.
i'd stop messaging her entirely and see what happens. if she ever does file for child support through the hua hin family court, you'll get a summons and then you can demand the paternity test as part of the process. but until then, chasing her is just gonna stress you out for nothing.
honestly man, if she's 45 and pregnant, that's already a higher-risk situation and could be why she's being weird about proof. thai women at that age who've been around hua hin know the game. i'd just let it go unless she comes after you for child support, which she probably won't if she won't even give you her last name. block her and move on, you'll drive yourself crazy chasing this
youre overthinking this. thai law doesnt give you any leverage here unless she files for child support, and even then the process is slow and favors the mother. the fact that shes 45 and pregnant with no real push to get anything from you officially suggests this is more about emotional games than a legal claim.
my advice is stop engaging entirely. every message you send is just fuel for her. if the child is yours, she'll come knocking when she needs money, and that's when you get your test. until then, you're just a guy stressing over a woman who wont even tell you her surname. thats not a case, thats a dead end.
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best som tam in Bangkok? Krua Dok Mai Kao 2026
Krua Dok Mai Kao is solid but I've always found their som tam a bit tame on the pla ra. If you want the real funky version, try the shophouse spots along Soi Udomsuk 26, near the night market end. They pound it fresh with fermented fish that'll clear your sinuses, and it's like 60 baht. Different style from the On Nut places, more Lao-leaning.
for som tam specifically i'd say the Isaan spots in Chatuchak are underrated, weekdays only though since the weekend crowd ruins the vibe. there's a stall near gate 2 that does tam pa with fermented bamboo shoots, super sour and funky, not something you see much in On Nut. if you're already heading north for Or Tor Kor anyway its worth the detour.
honestly the som tam at Krua Dok Mai Kao is good but what got me hooked is their nam prik pla raa dip with the raw veggies, that funk hits way harder than the papaya does. think most people sleep on it cuz they just order the som tam and gai yang. also pro tip, go before noon on weekdays, after that teh pla ra gets milder cuz they batch it for the lunch rush