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How to stop Feeling bad about rejection after random conversation with Thai girl ?
Anyway, today while completely sober, a random Thai girl struck up a conversation while I was standing at a canal boat pier waiting for a rain shower to ease off. We chatted away for a few minutes and she told me about her job at a hotel. It seemed the conversation was going ok so I decided to chance my arm and ask if she has Line to keep in contact. The answer was a pretty blunt no.
I took it well enough and just said ok, have a nice day. But now in the aftermath I'm seeing this rejection as confirmation of long held issues about myself. She seemed quite religious I guess (her plan was to go to the temple on her way home from work) and she was slightly peeved that I guessed she was 34 when she was actually 30.
I suppose I'm looking for advice on this. Should I never bother taking the chance again? Or is this rejection ultimately just a normal part of life that it's taken me way too long to learn?
Unfortunately my takeaway right now is that this confirms I'm an undesirable and likely ugly guy who doesn't have any place striking up conversations and asking girls out.
As another bit of context I've only ever slept with three women (and was in relationships with all of them) which is way below average. So my lack of experience obviously is on show here.
honestly bro, the fact that you had a full convo with a stranger while sober is already a win. social anxiety is no joke and you did the hard part without needing alcohol.
the line thing is just how it goes here. some girls are super private with their line, especially if they're religious or traditional. you asked, she said no, you handled it fine. that's not a reflection on your looks or worth, it's just two people not clicking.
also guessing her age wrong probably didn't help but that's a minor thing. if you keep putting yourself out there you'll find plenty of girls who are more open. the ones who say no are just filtering themselves out for you, which saves time in the long run.
the age thing probably stung more than anything else honestly. thai women can be sensitive about that, especially if they're already self-conscious about it. you asked, she said no, you walked away politely, that's a better interaction than most tourists manage. the canal boats near pra athit pier have a certain energy, people are usually just trying to get home or to work, not looking for a date. next time try a more social setting like a park bench at lumphini or a cafe in ari where conversation is more expected. you're reading too much into one no from a woman heading to pray
dude you got a no from a religious thai girl on her way to temple, that's like getting rejected by a nun at church doors. that's not about you. she probably felt awkward about the age thing and the whole situation was just off timing. you handled it way better than most guys would, seriously. keep at it, sober conversations get easier the more you do them.
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best som tam in Bangkok? Krua Dok Mai Kao 2026
Krua Dok Mai Kao is solid but I've always found their som tam a bit tame on the pla ra. If you want the real funky version, try the shophouse spots along Soi Udomsuk 26, near the night market end. They pound it fresh with fermented fish that'll clear your sinuses, and it's like 60 baht. Different style from the On Nut places, more Lao-leaning.
for som tam specifically i'd say the Isaan spots in Chatuchak are underrated, weekdays only though since the weekend crowd ruins the vibe. there's a stall near gate 2 that does tam pa with fermented bamboo shoots, super sour and funky, not something you see much in On Nut. if you're already heading north for Or Tor Kor anyway its worth the detour.
honestly the som tam at Krua Dok Mai Kao is good but what got me hooked is their nam prik pla raa dip with the raw veggies, that funk hits way harder than the papaya does. think most people sleep on it cuz they just order the som tam and gai yang. also pro tip, go before noon on weekdays, after that teh pla ra gets milder cuz they batch it for the lunch rush