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Why are Japanese women staring at me?
As far as I know Japanese women usually only find Jap… So I'm Turkish, my skin colour is brown, I have black hair and stubble short beard. Asian/european looking guy. 192 cm tall, 80 kg. 25 years old.
As far as I know Japanese women usually only find Japanese men attractive, and not foreigners. But some white men will have a chance (I'm not white). Or am I wrong?
So what's with the stare? The fact that I have a stubble short black beard, and have medium to long black hair, is this scaring them?
Several Japanese women stares at me with no facial expression at all (only like 2 girls out of like 15 the last couple of days have smiled making eye contact with me).
This one young woman stared at me sitting literally right in front of me in the metro. Looking away and then looking again 3 seconds later she still stares at me and doesn't look away lmao. No facial expression from her, no smile, but not in a aggressive way aswell, nor did it look like she was disgusted. Just staring, but its like she wanted some attention. When she walked out of the metro she turned her head and looked at me one last time before disappearing. (I looked at her leaving the metro).
I don't know if they find me attractive or scary. Most Japanese men do not have a connected beard or even a beard at all.
Not sure if I should feel bad or good about all this staring lmao.
What do you think?
you're 192cm with a beard in tokyo, you're basically a walking landmark lol. japanese people stare a lot in general, it's not usually hostile or romantic, just curiosity. the beard thing is real though - most japanese guys can't grow one so it's novel, especially on a tall guy. shinjuku station at 8am is the best place to test this theory if you wanna feel like a celebrity for a day
nah you're not scaring them, it's just that a tall guy with a beard and long hair is pretty unusual here. most japanese guys are clean shaven with shorter hair so you stand out visually, especially at 192cm.
the staring without smiling is totally normal japanese behavior tbh. they're just curious, not hostile. if they were disgusted they'd actively avoid eye contact. the metro girl who kept looking back was probably interested but too shy to do anything about it.
you'll get used to it after a week or two. the direct stares fade once you're a familiar face in your neighborhood. just don't mistake curiosity for attraction or hostility, it's usually neither
yeah so the staring thing is pretty normal honestly, im half japanese and even i get stared at sometimes cause im 188cm. the beard is definitely a big thing here cause most japanese guys cant grow one, so it's like seeing a unicorn on the ginza line. the expressionless stare is just how people look when they're processing something unusual, it's not hostile.
if anything the metro girl locking eyes with you and not looking away is a bit unusual though, usually people here break eye contact immediately. she mightve just been curious or maybe thought you looked like someone she knew. either way at 192cm with a beard you're gonna get looks everywhere from shibuya to akihabara, just part of being visibly different in a city where blending in is the default
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Where can I find crispy, pan-fried bacon similar to a certain international style?
if u have a costco membership the kirkland thick cut is the move, 4 packs of 500g for around 2500 yen and it crisps up proper in a cold pan. for smaller runs, precce in azabudai hills & the basement at isetan shinjuku both carry imported US & danish brands in the chilled case, just read the label for "thick cut" or "smoked" and not "loin". also worth knowing japanese bacon is often wet-cured so pat it dry before frying or it steams instead of crisping
kaldi coffee farm is hit or miss but their smoked bacon from denmark shows up pretty regular, the 200g pack runs about 600 yen. what actually works better for me is asking the butcher counter at peacock or life to slice the block bacon thick, like 5mm, they do it for free and it crisps way better than the pre-packed stuff. also fwiw cheap bacon crisps faster, the fatty supermarket kind at 300 yen a pack works fine if u cook it from cold in a dry pan and pour off the fat as it renders.
tbh the gyomu super store brand bacon is surprisingly decent for crisping up, its not thick cut but if you cook it low and slow it gets pretty crunchy. the key is the dry cure vs wet cure thing, wet cure steams. also check hanamasa if you have one nearby, they sell big packs of american style bacon thats actually smoked and firm.