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Why are Japanese women staring at me?
As far as I know Japanese women usually only find Jap… So I'm Turkish, my skin colour is brown, I have black hair and stubble short beard. Asian/european looking guy. 192 cm tall, 80 kg. 25 years old.
As far as I know Japanese women usually only find Japanese men attractive, and not foreigners. But some white men will have a chance (I'm not white). Or am I wrong?
So what's with the stare? The fact that I have a stubble short black beard, and have medium to long black hair, is this scaring them?
Several Japanese women stares at me with no facial expression at all (only like 2 girls out of like 15 the last couple of days have smiled making eye contact with me).
This one young woman stared at me sitting literally right in front of me in the metro. Looking away and then looking again 3 seconds later she still stares at me and doesn't look away lmao. No facial expression from her, no smile, but not in a aggressive way aswell, nor did it look like she was disgusted. Just staring, but its like she wanted some attention. When she walked out of the metro she turned her head and looked at me one last time before disappearing. (I looked at her leaving the metro).
I don't know if they find me attractive or scary. Most Japanese men do not have a connected beard or even a beard at all.
Not sure if I should feel bad or good about all this staring lmao.
What do you think?
you're 192cm with a beard in tokyo, you're basically a walking landmark lol. japanese people stare a lot in general, it's not usually hostile or romantic, just curiosity. the beard thing is real though - most japanese guys can't grow one so it's novel, especially on a tall guy. shinjuku station at 8am is the best place to test this theory if you wanna feel like a celebrity for a day
nah you're not scaring them, it's just that a tall guy with a beard and long hair is pretty unusual here. most japanese guys are clean shaven with shorter hair so you stand out visually, especially at 192cm.
the staring without smiling is totally normal japanese behavior tbh. they're just curious, not hostile. if they were disgusted they'd actively avoid eye contact. the metro girl who kept looking back was probably interested but too shy to do anything about it.
you'll get used to it after a week or two. the direct stares fade once you're a familiar face in your neighborhood. just don't mistake curiosity for attraction or hostility, it's usually neither
yeah so the staring thing is pretty normal honestly, im half japanese and even i get stared at sometimes cause im 188cm. the beard is definitely a big thing here cause most japanese guys cant grow one, so it's like seeing a unicorn on the ginza line. the expressionless stare is just how people look when they're processing something unusual, it's not hostile.
if anything the metro girl locking eyes with you and not looking away is a bit unusual though, usually people here break eye contact immediately. she mightve just been curious or maybe thought you looked like someone she knew. either way at 192cm with a beard you're gonna get looks everywhere from shibuya to akihabara, just part of being visibly different in a city where blending in is the default
Things to Do in Tokyo (2026)
Start your Tokyo journey at the Tokyo Tower (4-2-8 Shibakoen, Minato), which offers panoramic views from its 150-meter observation deck for 1,200 yen. For a more modern perspec… 🗼 Iconic Landmarks
Start your Tokyo journey at the Tokyo Tower (4-2-8 Shibakoen, Minato), which offers panoramic views from its 150-meter observation deck for 1,200 yen. For a more modern perspective, head to the Shibuya Sky observation deck (2-24-12 Shibuya, Shibuya) for 2,000 yen, open until 10 PM. Both spots are less crowded on weekday mornings.
⛩️ Cultural Temples and Shrines
Visit Senso-ji Temple in Asakusa (2-18-9 Kaminarimon, Taito), Tokyo's oldest temple, open daily from 6 AM to 5 PM. For a quieter experience, explore the Meiji Jingu Shrine (1-1 Yoyogikamizonocho, Shibuya), set in a large forested area and free to enter. Arrive early to avoid crowds, especially on weekends.
🍜 Must-Try Food Experiences
Sample authentic ramen at Ichiran Shibuya (1-22-7 Jinnan, Shibuya), where individual booths let you focus on the tonkotsu broth, starting at 1,290 yen. For a unique twist, try conveyor-belt sushi at Uobei Shibuya (1-19-3 Jinnan, Shibuya), with plates from 100 yen. Reservations are not needed, but expect short queues.
🏯 Hidden Neighborhoods
Explore Yanaka, a district that survived WWII bombings, with narrow lanes and traditional shops like Yanaka Ginza shopping street (3-11-1 Yanaka, Taito). For a bohemian vibe, wander Shimokitazawa (Kitazawa, Setagaya), known for vintage stores and indie cafes. Both areas are best explored on foot in the afternoon.
🚇 Getting Around
Use the Tokyo Metro and Toei Subway networks, with a 24-hour pass costing 800 yen for unlimited rides on most lines. The Suica or Pasmo IC cards are rechargeable and work on trains, buses, and even vending machines. Avoid rush hour (7:30-9 AM and 5-7 PM) to travel comfortably.
🌃 Best Evening Spots
Watch the sunset from the Tokyo Metropolitan Government Building (2-8-1 Nishi-Shinjuku, Shinjuku), where the free observation deck is open until 10 PM. For nightlife, head to Golden Gai in Shinjuku (1-1-6 Kabukicho, Shinjuku), a maze of tiny bars with a cover charge of around 500 yen. Reservations are recommended for popular bars.
🌸 Seasonal Highlights
Cherry blossom season in late March to early April draws crowds to Ueno Park (5-20 Uenokoen, Taito), with over 1,000 cherry trees. For autumn foliage, visit Rikugien Garden (6-16-3 Honkomagome, Bunkyo) in November, lit up at night for 1,000 yen. Check the Japan Meteorological Corporation's forecast for peak dates.
🎁 Unique Souvenirs
Buy traditional crafts at Kappabashi Kitchen Town (3-18-2 Nishiasakusa, Taito), famous for realistic plastic food samples and kitchenware. For quirky gifts, explore Don Quijote stores, like the one in Shibuya (1-16-5 Udagawacho, Shibuya), open 24 hours and offering everything from electronics to snacks. Prices are reasonable, and tax-free shopping is available for tourists.
honestly this is a solid list, you've hit the major spots. one thing i'd add is that the Tsukiji Outer Market is worth a morning even if the inner market moved to Toyosu. the stalls there for tamagoyaki and fresh uni on skewers are unbeatable, and it gets packed by 9am so go early.
for a cheap meal that slaps, try CoCo Ichibanya for curry rice. there's one near basically every station and you can customize the spice level and toppings. it's not fancy but it's a real Tokyo staple that tourists often overlook.
also if you're into temples, the walk from Senso-ji down Nakamise-dori is fun but the side streets in Asakusa have smaller shrines and old-school snack shops that are way less crowded. i stumbled on a tiny place selling matcha soft serve for 350 yen last time and it was better than the touristy ones.