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Divorce because dead bedroom - Can you recommend lawyers or other resources in Tokyo, Yokohama or Kawasaki?
if ur husband is a seishain at a big company check whether his employer has a shokuba no kenshin or an in-house counselor, bc HR records can sometimes be subpoenaed in chotei and show he was aware of the problem, that paper trail matters more than a fresh diagnosis. also dont sleep on the "fufu kyodo seikatsu" angle, japanese courts do look at whether the marriage was functionally dead for years and a dead bedroom plus separate bedrooms plus no shared meals all stack up. for actual names, the Yokohama Bar Association near Sakuragicho does a monthly gaikokujin hotline, and the Kanagawa International Foundation in Yamashita-cho keeps a running list of lawyers who take legal aid vouchers so u dont pay upfront. one more thing, if u have PR or a long-term visa already, ur negotiating position changes completely, so figure that out before u sit down with anyone
A couple of things nobody's mentioned yet. First, if you've been married long enough and your husband is a seishain, his kyuyo shotoku withholding slip and bonus records are discoverable through chotei, so you don't need to already have them in hand to start. Second, the divorce ground question: Japan's Civil Code Article 770 lists five grounds, and "serious cause making marriage impossible" (shitsurei na jiyu) is the catch-all, so a documented dead bedroom plus the mental health fallout can fall under that, but judges want corroboration over years, not months.
For the mental health side, a Japanese psychiatrist's diagnosis carries more weight in family court than a therapist's notes, and you can get one at a kokoro no clinic or a university hospital psych department. The tricky part is that Japanese psychiatric records often don't phrase causation the way a lawyer needs, so ask the doctor upfront to note onset, duration, and functional impact in the chart.
On the lawyer front, look at firms in Yokohama that handle gaikokujin cases specifically, like the ones near Kannai Station, rather than central Tokyo firms charging 30,000 yen just for the first sit-down. Some Kanagawa firms will do a flat fee for chotei representation, which is usually a lot cheaper than litigation.
honestly the diagnosis thing might backfire if you frame it as caused by him without a paper trail, so get a therapist who'll write detailed notes with dates. also look up the Tokyo Family Court's chotei process first, its way cheaper than hiring a bengoshi upfront and a lot of foreign women go that route solo. for english speaking lawyers the Tokyo Metropolitan Government has a free legal consultation list on their site, just search "gaikokujin soudan"
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Where can I find crispy, pan-fried bacon similar to a certain international style?
if u have a costco membership the kirkland thick cut is the move, 4 packs of 500g for around 2500 yen and it crisps up proper in a cold pan. for smaller runs, precce in azabudai hills & the basement at isetan shinjuku both carry imported US & danish brands in the chilled case, just read the label for "thick cut" or "smoked" and not "loin". also worth knowing japanese bacon is often wet-cured so pat it dry before frying or it steams instead of crisping
kaldi coffee farm is hit or miss but their smoked bacon from denmark shows up pretty regular, the 200g pack runs about 600 yen. what actually works better for me is asking the butcher counter at peacock or life to slice the block bacon thick, like 5mm, they do it for free and it crisps way better than the pre-packed stuff. also fwiw cheap bacon crisps faster, the fatty supermarket kind at 300 yen a pack works fine if u cook it from cold in a dry pan and pour off the fat as it renders.
tbh the gyomu super store brand bacon is surprisingly decent for crisping up, its not thick cut but if you cook it low and slow it gets pretty crunchy. the key is the dry cure vs wet cure thing, wet cure steams. also check hanamasa if you have one nearby, they sell big packs of american style bacon thats actually smoked and firm.